Upgrade Your Relationship Intuition
Help especially for those who are dating while grey
How intuitive are you in your romantic relationship? Intuition is a vital element in any robust and fulfilling relationship. This suggestion may sound counterintuitive to you if you are a concrete thinker. Trust me, you need to open your mind and allow your gut instinct to lead you instead of thinking so hard.
One way to tell how well your intuition works is through mind-mapping. It sounds techy, but mind-mapping is totally organic, that is, person-to-person. All you have to do is allow your partner to read your mind freely and confirm when they guess accurately. The more you confirm, the better you and your partner can intuit each other’s wants and needs.
Intuition, after all, is about relying on your gut instinct and hunches about something, and acting, accordingly. Don’t sit around overthinking a situation. That defeats intuition’s purpose.
But first, you must build your experience over time. That is about allowing practicing repetition. After plenty of repetition, you’ll begin trusting your feedback loop.
In romantic relationships, you want to communicate your needs as efficiently as possible. Ditto for your partner. Intuition provides a shortcut to communicating your needs. But, it requires you to affirm your partner’s guesses, not reject them.
If you find yourself confused or guessing your partner’s needs incorrectly, that means one thing. You need to change what you’re doing. Right away.
Here’s how you upgrade your intuition.
Be more agreeable with your partner. Stop insisting your partner be like you or do things your way. Begin doing things their way. Or at least, give them positive feedback on the things they do rather than negative.
People with low-grade intuition often suffer from insisting their romantic interests do things a certain way. That way is usually something the low-grade person learned from their parents, some ideal image they dreamed up, or an outdated expectation no one can live up to.
Low-grade intuition happens frequently for people dating up in age. Why? Because older people are prone to insist on behaviors or habits they acquired in their 20s and 30s that no longer work in their 50s and 60s.
Let that stuff go!
Find out what your partner needs or wants, even if it’s different than what you think they should want or need, and deliver it generously. The more generously you give, the more you reinforce your new understanding of them. Eventually, you’ll trust your intuition, and act without thinking or reasoning.
It helps when you and your partner agree to practice this together. Once you gain agreement, practice, practice, practice!
Upgrading your intuition begins just like that.
Here’s the promise: you’ll experience your upgraded intuition working before you know it. How will you know it’s working? Both you and your partner will discover more joy in your relationship.
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